Article on Loving One Child Over Another Sparks Letters To Our Daughters

Gina Crosley-Corcoran, The Feminist Breeder, is known for speaking up about breast-feeding rights, activism for natural birth and self-advocacy in childbirth.  She is also preparing for her own daughter’s birth. Striving for a natural birth after a c-section, she hopes to have baby Jolene at home with her “Hyphenated Husband” John. She’s been preparing for the birth and baby – due any day now – by getting her supplies and working out the details to live blog the home birth. She’s had maternity photos done. She’s had a Blessingway gathering with her closest friends and those that support her VBAC and home birth. Did I mention she’s in school chasing a law career and the mother of two young children?

Recently she came across a post on Babble called “I Think I Love My Son a Little Bit More” which was written by a mother who confessed that she felt more love for her son than her daughter.

“I don’t want to comment on the content of the article except to say that the author did receive a heavy amount of backlash, and most of it stemmed from other moms believing that the author’s daughter might be traumatized if she read this article as an adult. The comments on the article inspired me to create a guest post series asking the question: What would other moms say to their grown daughters if given the chance? Would you hand down a piece of wisdom? Apologize to her for something? Or tell her how much you enjoyed certain things about her individual personality?”

Inspired about her own impending birth, Gina asked for readers who were mothers of daughters to submit letters for a Guest Post Series: Letter to My Daughter. Already more submissions than she can manage she has a letter schedule nearly every other day for the next five weeks.

“I’ve been really overwhelmed by the sheer volume of moms willing to submit to the series. I figured my request would get maybe a dozen or so, but I had to cut things off when I reached over 50. The response has been amazing. What I’m learning from this series is that all of our stories are so different, and yet we’re all so connected to our collective womanhood, which is a truly powerful thing.”

Posts are coming from every walk of life; mothers of all ages, mothers of kids with special needs, and surprise pregnancies, just to name a few.

Gina has received some backlash for not having a series of “Letters to My Son,” but insists it was a spontaneous idea born out of her own emotions surrounding her impending daughter’s birth (she likes sons, she even has a couple of her own). Maybe one day she will settle the score with a son series. Until then she’s focused on birthing at home, advocating for choices in women’s healthcare, breastfeeding awareness and managing her busy life.